Should You Make Him Jealous Deliberately?
Have you ever tried making someone jealous? Who didn't, right? Whether it worked out giving you an instant ego boost or not, let's walk away from this mentality and step into paths that drive you to more interesting places. Places that you find yourself feeling secure and loved by the most important person in your life. You.
On the contrary, trying to make someone jealous means two things: firstly, there is an unconscious thought that you are not enough which drives you to do something extra that doesn't come from you naturally aiming to get him interested, and secondly that the light of the relationship is....have a guess... on him!
PUT THE LIGHTS ON YOU.
The first step is to put yourself in the center of your attention. Instead of wasting energy on thinking strategies on how to make him jealous, concentrate all of your energy on how to improve yourself. Not because you are not good enough yet, but because your life is way more exciting when you improve yourself daily and you are ready to seize every opportunity. As the say goes, when the opportunity comes, it's too late to prepare. So start preparing now!
So woman, it’s not about making him jealous or making him want you. It is just about YOU. The amazing YOU that lives a worth-living life, that take action, that own your life! There is nothing sexier than a confident woman that truly cares about herself and she is not afraid to show it, making her needs and wants priority in her life and standing up for herself.
IT IS NOT ABOUT MAKING HIM LOVE YOU, IT IS ABOUT MAKING YOU GORGEOUS!
Leave love strategies aside and start planning your ''2020 project: the best year of your life''. Feel free and confident enough to be spontaneous when it comes to human relationships, be authentic and it will be interpreted as confident, be brave enough to express yourself telling your truth and the results will compensate you in the long-term.
IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO.
So far it was all about you, but what happens in his head when you make him jealous deliberately? For men, it may be a little bit more difficult to express their feelings because of social norms and the fear of being perceived as vulnerable, that’s why they don’t show their emotional side easily. To help him do so, CREATE AN EMOTIONALLY SAFE ENVIRONMENT for him! What does it mean? It means that you should better avoid creating unnecessary insecurities about how much you are interested in him, and instead give him time to unlock himself and show him (with actions, not with words) that there is no emotional danger, if he exposes his soft side.
SIDE EFFECTS.
Now let’s just think of what he will think of you, if he realizes that you try to make him jealous intentionally. For sure, he will not be proud of the confident and independent woman that he has in his life, don’t you think so?! He is most likely to perceive you as a rather needy and unreliable girl, and I am sure this is NOT what you want. Suffice it to say, don’t start a game you don’t like to play... If you show him that it’s OK for you to do certain things, I guess it is OK for him to do them as well. So wait for it!
WILL HE TAKE YOU FOR GRANTED?
No, if it is not the truth! Would you take for granted a man that is independent, do things for himself, he has self-respect, he is interested in trying new things in life, he is reliable and he wants to be with you? This is just the type of man you take him seriously. I guess you get my point! First, you feel secure, afterwards, you trust and then intimacy is born, you don’t build on moving ground.
WHAT TO TAKE AWAY.
Go out with your friends, have fun in your own life apart from him, commit to your evolution and this will be more than enough not to care if he is jealous or not. First, YOU have to give yourself the attention you want, and the rest will come. I promise.
Written by Natalia Alexandridou
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